I just checked out a book from the library called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands," by Dr. Laura Schlesinger. I read some very good reviews about it on the internet and so far I am really enjoying this book! I am planning to write more about it on the blog later. Dr. Laura uses interesting and very praiseworthy concepts for justifying the necessity of caring for husbands. For example, she writes in her chapter about the wife keeping up her appearance:
“In reading all the letters from men, I was struck by their depth of sensitivity about the issue of women’s appearance. It wasn’t an impersonal, animal reaction (as it is with women the men don’t personally know), it was a deeply personal one. The wife’s comfort with and appreciation of her own body and femininity, and her willingness to share that with her husband, actually fed his sense of well-being, his feeling of being loved as a husband and valued as a ‘man.’”
Although she does not say it explicitly, Dr. Laura is justifying femininity based on the fact that men are embodied souls. Marriage elevates the relationship for men to something much deeper than physical. The soul too possesses qualities unique to one's own sex. Men want someone in marriage who respects their masculinity deeply enough to care about embracing her own femininity, both physically and spiritually and emotionally. This is what drives the usual desire of men to have pretty, feminine, kept up wives. Dr. Laura apparently realizes that the institution of marriage is more than social, it is also spiritual. I just loved this concept!
It is the subject really that interested me most about this book. "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" is something that I really do need to work on. I am very excited to get to the feeding part next!