Saturday, June 27, 2015

Christian Privilege

The start of JFK's funeral procession shows the privilege of Christian burial.

We attended a cousin's funeral today, a very tragic and sudden death.  Although shock, grief and depression were what I expected at such a tragic time, I was impressed today with only a very Christian resignation.  The grace that her husband and family received was overwhelmingly apparent and instead of witnessing unbearable sorrow, I perceived only peace.

My feelings progressed into meditation as we drove through the funeral procession to the cemetery.  People slowed down and stopped at intercessions when they saw the little orange flags on our vehicles, a respectful deferment to the age old dignity of Christian burial.  The police acknowledged us solemnly, allowing this ceremonious occasion to override the common traffic laws.

What is this almost patriotic respect people intuitively show to someone laying in a coffin?

Some would argue that respect for the dead is meaningless and empty, a sentiment of egalitarian despondency.  Some put on black and stand in Church out of a sense of mediocre decency.  But for Catholics it is beautiful, awe-inspiring and even comforting.

A funeral procession exercises Christian privilege and recalls the purpose of civilization, not to guard against death, but to guard against damnation.  Those who witness such a formidable occasion momentarily remember the reality of God's judgment and mercy.

Friday, June 26, 2015

God's Law Trumps Common Law

Let us hope that God has more mercy on our country than He did on Sodom and Gomorrah.

I was just about to go into the grocery store today when I heard on the radio the decision of the US Supreme Court to allow homosexual couples to "marry".  Although this was expected, all I could think of at that moment was may God have mercy on us!  When people scorn biological truth, natural law and divine order to such an extent, surely we ask for the chastisement of Divine Providence?!

Judge Scalia called the profane decision pretentious, egotistic and prideful as it severs US Christians from the Constitution and accuses us of "discrimination" and "bigotry" instead of protecting our freedom to choose righteousness.  In short, this decision very clearly pits faith against law.

I am indignant, as all Christians should be, at this abomination against both God and man.  It is good to remember that God's Law trumps common law.  But what will be next?


Monday, June 22, 2015

A Week In Feminine Dress Challenge: 30 Weeks at the Beach!

I'm back!  I hope everyone is having a wonderful June and enjoying the Summer weather.  My family had a great time at Virginia beach last week!  It was very hot but wonderful to get some sun!  I am here to post pictures for the Week in Feminine Dress Challenge as I promised.  I did not remember to take pictures everyday on vacation, so I am adding a few from after we got home.  I am especially sad that I didn't actually get any photos on the beach.  In any case, here is my week in feminine dress:




Nightmare of Relativism

Bruce Jenner claims he is a woman despite being born a man and Rachel Dolezal claims she is black despite being born white.  The inability to reason objectively is leading society into a nightmare of relativism.

As I watched the ridiculous news story about Rachel Dolezal unfold last week, I wondered if racial subjectivity will follow sexual subjectivity.  Are we all just whatever we feel?  Has objective law been abolished along with God?

It would seem so.

In case you don't know, Rachel Dolezal is the now ex-leader of a NAACP who claims she is black despite being born white because she feels that is her racial identity.  It is indeed a ridiculous claim, yet as I listened to her try to define her "feelings" I realized how similar this is to Bruce Jenner's situation.  He claims he is a woman because he feels like it.  She claims she is black because she feels like it.  What's the difference?

Will civil law now start "protecting" people who think they are whatever they imagine?  Sex is already being regarded in many places as relative.  Biological truth is denied.  Fantasy is protected by law.  Because there can't be right and wrong or even real and unreal without reason.  Laws must be based on something objective since we have Original Sin and the tendency to stray from righteousness when left to our own devices.

It's really not that complicated to know whether you're a man or a woman, black or white.  Objective truth does not lie.  We need to wake up NOW because society without God is becoming an absolute nightmare of relativism!

What do you think?

Sunday, June 21, 2015

A Week In Feminine Dress Challenge: Elizabeth

Our first submission for the Week In Feminine Dress Challenge is from Elizabeth.  I think she looks lovely and I want to thank her so much for participating!  It takes courage to dress like a lady in today's mixed up world.  She says, "All of the outfits I am wearing in these pictures except Friday's outfit were made by me. "  That's amazing!  I especially love the first blouse.

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

A Weekend In Feminine Dress: Everyday Edition

Welcome to A Weekend In Feminine Dress!  This is when I post pictures of a modest and elegant outfit to encourage women in the apostolate of feminine dress.  If you would like to send me your photos to feature here, please do at:  Thank you!
Here is what I wore yesterday.  I had a midwife appointment in the evening, so we drove down to Pittsburgh's Strip District and afterwards got ice cream.  We went to Klavon's Ice Cream Parlor a few months ago and ever since the children have to ask every time we are at the Midwife Center.  It is a very nice traditional American ice cream parlor/old drug store environment, so I don't really mind!


Pink Top-
Olive Top- Target (Merona)
Skirt- (Motherhood)
Necklace- Gift



Thursday, June 4, 2015

Motherhood is Not Just Another Hat


As a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, nurse and small business owner, my life has many facets, but never once would I consider the gift of motherhood as "just another hat" I wear.

I recently read an article that annoyed me.  That's not a rare things these days as my curious hand over the little gliding mouse often clicks on articles with titles that peak my interest and I am often let down by the point the authors are conveying.  This article made me feel sad for the author and all those who validated her misguided feelings.

She is clearly wrestling within herself the idea of what motherhood is.  Her opening paragraph describes the haze filled first four months with her baby.  She wants to get away from the responsibility, take off the hat.

A woman changes into a mother as she hears the heartbeat for the first time, watches her belly swell and fells her baby's movements growing stronger each day until she gives birth.  She holds the child that she was a partner in creating close, sooths his cries and caresses him tenderly.  How could this not change her?

She was not just given a "hat", she was marked with an indelible mark of motherhood that grew from within.  It is now a fiber of her being, weaving through her heart and soul.  It's beaming through her eyes as she looks at her new little one.  This mark carries with it a sense of responsibility, pride and love.  Motherhood is not an accessory that can be taken on and off depending on the situation.

The author of this article goes on to complain that society views her differently now that she is a mom.  It is now impossible to remove the mom hat and just be herself.   She complains that people see motherhood as a demoted lifestyle, expectations are assumed and as "experts" say, this can "prevent women from evolving".

But I evolved.  I like to think that before I had kids I was empathetic, smart, reliable and kind to others, especially as a nurse.  But once you have a child you can't watch a commercial for St. Jude's Children's Hospital and not see your own child in the face of a little one suffering with cancer.  You know without being reminded that every child is someone's child.  Being a parent changes you.  It changes you for the better.

Is your life so fragile that you need to get back to work and hear your praise and worth from someone paid to be your supervisor to feel fulfilled?  If that is the case than I feel such sorrow and pity for you.  Don't get me wrong!  I think that a mom should have varied interests and show her kids that she is capable of doing more than just laundry and dishes.  But the kids have to know that THEY come first at all cost.

As a mother of 3 children ages 4 and under, I am well aware of the struggle it can be day in and day out to keep a smile on your face while attending to everyone's needs at once.  I am well acquainted with the sleepless nights and endless toddler whining.  I know how hard it can be to find two minutes to escape to the bathroom alone and how difficult it is to cook dinner with one baby on the hip, another hanging off the leg and a third saying that all he wants is ice cream.  It's exhausting!

But when I come across an article that says it's okay to be a "good enough" mom, I have to challenge that.  Who tells their kids to aim for a C in school so that they can just squeak by?  I certainly won't and I wasn't raised that way.  We shouldn't beat ourselves up over not achieving perfection every minute, but I'm tired of society cramming contentment in mediocrity down my throat.  Let's hold ourselves to a higher standard.  There IS a right way and a wrong way to do things.  As moms, let's lift each other up in support.  We shouldn't criticize each other when we fall short but we also shouldn't encourage the shortcomings.  I know what areas in life I need to work on and, instead of being told, "It's okay; you're good enough," I want to be told, "Tomorrow is another day!"

I know I've digressed a bit so let me get back to the topic I started with:  What if all moms were unabashedly proud of their role and when people stopped them with, "Wow you have your hands full!" or "You're done having kids, right?" they stood up tall and answered proudly, "Yes I am a mother and it is the most important job I have!"  What if our kids heard us say we love to be their parents and there's nothing greater in this world, instead of hearing, "Yes, they're quite a handful."

Because we know the pure peace of holding our children close as they sleep, their sweet warm cheek pressed against us as they breathe those slow, deep breathes and lay there in total abandonment.  While those moments seem few in comparison to the rest of the chaotic, loud moments we deal with, they are certainly enough to reassure us that motherhood is not just another hat, but a loving role that once taken on will never cease to exist and carries a depth that is unmatched by any other role we play in life.

Should we shrink away from the title of MOM and moan and groan that others may actually view us as only mothers?  I say NO.  I say we embrace the role in and out of the home, while around our kids and apart from them.  We should be glad that the world knows we are mothers and therefore assumes that we are compassionate, self-sacrificing and caring human beings.  Let's be those things always.

Here's some encouragement from Dr. Kreeft who gives this advice to mothers, "Love the hell out of them.  Love them twice as much every day as you did the day before.  Loving like hell is tough as hell.  The older and more hellish they get, the greater your love must grow: a fierce love, tough love, gentle love merciful love, demanding love, joyful love, constant love, humble love, bold love, public love, secret love, sacrificial love, repentant love, sweet love, bitter love, laughing love, weeping love, truthful love, prudent love, patient love, undying love."
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