That line is between femininity and showiness.
Since I am not a princess, the wearing of a crown was an act of egalitarian pride
and an offence against modesty.
He says, "External seemliness is a sort of indication of inward good order...For my own part I should like my devout man or woman to be the best dressed person in the company, but the least fine or splendid, and adorned, as Saint Peter says, with 'the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit.' Saint Louis said that the right thing is for everyone to dress according to his position..." What does this mean?
Once when we were little girls my sisters and I were encouraged to wear tiaras to a party. We obliged and even had our hair cured to the point where we were quite obviously overdressed. It was awkward the entire time since the other children at the party considered us snobs. And although being different should not bother us if we are correct, there was a sense of being inappropriate that disturbed my feeling of order. This was because the crown I wore was not genuine. Although the traditional dress of little girls is feminine and beautiful for rich and poor alike, it must also represent truth and be appropriate to our state in life. Since I am not a princess, the wearing of a crown was an act of egalitarian pride and an offence against modesty.
This is a delicate subject. There are no rules that say a woman cannot be showy, it is instead a matter of good taste. To cultivate a disgust for showiness, know your place and consider the humility of Our Lady. She did not wear glorified clothing even when it was justified. Instead, the Queen of Heaven preferred to be hidden inside her home. She was surrounded by Angels who adored her and her Divine Son who treated her like a Queen. And this was enough.
Modesty is a beautiful virtue and one chosen on this blog as a motto for the Catholic Lady: Modesty and Elegance.
St. Francis de Sales says, "Do not wish to be anything
but what you are, and try to be that perfectly."
St. Francis de Sales says, "Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly."
So it would be an attack against order for a woman to wear clothes like a man, a gentleman to wear the rough boots of a worker, or a girl to wear a crown if she is not a princess. It would be pretentious for me to wear pretty white gloves everyday because I am a working mother. Some things that are elegant, that we admire and marvel at, we should not covet- because for us they are immodest. St. Therese said in her book that she marveled at the life of the peasants as she drove through the countryside, but she did not leave her place to become them because that would be a perversion of God's order.
St. Thomas Aquinas lists the natural virtues which seem to be related to modesty:
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
WHAT DO YOU THINK?